Is It Funny to Be Mean

Mean is Not Funny

It was one of the meanest blog posts I've ever read – yet I found myself laughing.

Apparently I wasn't alone because overnight, this blogger gained 20,000 Facebook followers. Many followers were people I knew, moms like me who were stressed out by the chaos of mid-December and craving comic relief.

The blogger's timing was spot-on because she made us laugh about the quest to create "magical" holiday memories. Problem was, her sarcastic essay centered around another blogger's article and her list of overachiever ideas for mischievous elves.

She shared the blogger's name, linked to her website, called her white trash, and quipped about the ridiculousness of her suggestions. Because she was funny – and because so many moms felt overwhelmed and inadequate in creating these magical memories – her article went crazy viral. Everyone shared it, even women who would never speak this way themselves.

It didn't hit me how wrong this frenzy was until the next day, when I suddenly felt ashamed and regretful for laughing along. The blogger she targeted was a real person with a genuine desire to help parents, and by no fault of her own, she'd become the laughingstock of the Internet.

I realized then how forgiving we are of people who make us laugh – even at someone else's expense. Humor is king in today's society, and people can get away with voicing any remark as long as it's funny.

The standards for acceptable humor have fallen frightfully low, for we're so eager to be entertained – to have a reprieve from our stressful, complicated lives – that we'll elevate comediennes to a pedestal if their mean humor is witty.

Ironically, it takes more talent and ingenuity to be clean funny than to be mean funny. People who do humor and sarcasm exceptionally well don't go for the low-hanging fruit. They don't take the lazy route or blurt out anything to get a laugh. Their humor doesn't make people feel bad later. No one wakes up the next morning and regrets being part of the joke.

I have a friend who owns a business that attracts many kids. All day long she listens to them talk, and the conversations have inspired her to tell her son and his friends, Mean is not funny. She harps on this point like a broken record, repeating it every time they laugh at a joke that's funny at someone's expense.

Mean is not funny. Mean is not funny. It's a catchy phrase that can help individuals decide what is appropriate humor and what is not.

People often talk about how mean kids are today, and in many ways it's true. I hear stories all the time about the biting remarks made at every age and kids having breakdowns at home after getting teased at school.

Moms of teenagers often express concern over the way that age group talks to each other – how even "friends" use sarcasm they think is funny but is actually hurtful.

The truth about this culture shaping our kids, however, is that it reflects adult culture. We grown-ups set the bar, and quite frankly, we've failed them as role models.

In a world where adults will say anything to get a laugh – in person or online – and hear praise if they're funny, it logically follows that kids will do the same.

To expect better from our kids, we must first expect better of ourselves – and consider the example we set in what we celebrate, laugh at, and consider good entertainment.

Mean is not funny because it comes at someone's expense. It points an unwanted spotlight as the jester holds court. Many hurtful remarks come from people trying to be funny. People who get sarcasm terribly wrong and hit someone below the belt.

The Internet gives us new ways to be kind and new ways to be mean. We can laugh at insulting jokes and not feel guilty because we don't know the victim or see their reaction. We can forget there's a real human being with a target on their chest.

Obviously, mean humor online hurts victims, but it can also hurt the jokesters. One offhanded joke made in poor taste is all it takes to wreck the jokester's reputation and turn the Internet against them.

Author Sue Scheff, in her book Shame Nation, shares a rich array of stories of how mistakes and bad jokes online have backfired and cost people jobs, careers, respect, friends, and major opportunities. A passionate advocate for online decency and kindness, Sue offers practical tips to help social media users create digital reputations they can be proud of, often reminding users, "Fifteen minutes of humor is not worth a lifetime of humiliation."

In real life and online, hurting someone to get a laugh is wrong. It's selfish and immature. We all love to laugh, and we all need people in our lives who make us laugh and help us lighten up.

But as we decide what humor to embrace – or what kind of comedienne we aspire to be – let's think about standards. Anyone can reach for low-hanging fruit, those jokes that garner quick laughs but later make people feel sick, yet it's the high-hanging fruit that satisfies the soul.

Humor done right is uplifting. It unites people, bringing everyone into the joke. The best comediennes realize this and aim high when crafting punchlines. For those of us listening or following along, it logically follows that we should aim high too – and think about the example we set for the next generation to follow.

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Posted by Kari on October 8, 2018

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